You know how it goes, your favorite aunt Bessy means well, she really does, but her food pushing does little for your healthy diet plan…
“Just a little piece,” she’ll say, wafting her delicious, freshly baked brownies under your nose. “You can’t live on lettuce forever” — you’re feeling tempted — “How about a little of my apple pie?” she says looking a little downhearted. “Come on, it’s your favorite!”
You’ve been there, right? But, what should you do?
You don’t want to offend, but you’ve been so good, and that innocent looking piece of pie could send you right off your diet… again!
Ugh, it’s a tough one.
Food pushers are everywhere, whether it’s your weekly Sunday dinner at the in-laws, or those special birthday celebrations. They’re difficult to avoid, and almost impossible to say no to.
You’ll know that recently I asked you to share your biggest challenges with me. Thank you so much for your responses so far. You’ve really given me some great ideas.
So today, I wanted to address one of those great questions. It’s from Sharon, here’s what she said:
Simply keeping motivation to say no to that one extra not-so-healthy-thing too many, especially when not in my own home. It’s all very well choosing a healthy option over pizza at home, but when you visit some well-meaning friends and family, who set it in front of you and then say “You’ll have a bit of cake – we bought it especially for you.” what do you do?
I feel your pain, Sharon. But, this situation doesn’t have to lead to overeating.
Being diplomatic — not hurtful — about how you “no,” is the key!
Here are 3 ways to say no to a food pusher:
1. Honesty is the best policy!
Not always easy, but talking to your family and friends about what you’re trying to achieve is important.
This will help them to understand that you haven’t suddenly developed an aversion to their fab blueberry muffins, it’s just that you’re committed to your weight-loss efforts, and you really want to give it a go this time.
2. Stall a little
Dessert can be difficult to say no to. And, it usually makes it’s way around the table soon after dinner, before your stomach has had the chance to register just how full you really are.
So, by holding back for a while, you’ll be in a better position to assess just how much, if any, you can eat, and you’ll probably find if you do have some dessert after, you’ll be happy to eat a lot less.
Just say something like, “Maybe I’ll have some in a little while, I’m too full right now.”
Then, divert the conversation to something else, if they’re still not getting the point.
After a break, you may find your craving for something sweet has passed, and it’ll be much easier to give a firm no to the offer later on.
3. Portion control
If there’s something on offer that you’d really like to try, have it… just eat a smaller amount than you normally would.
Enjoy each mouthful, complement the chef on their delicious cooking, just remember to say no to any offer of seconds.
When a food pusher is around, you need to be assertive, not aggressive, when you are saying no to them.
Mostly, they don’t actually mean to sabotage your diet with their food pushing, but you need to stand your ground regardless.
Remember, it’s your health. Make it your top priority. Take control of the situation, before it controls you.
What are your tips for avoiding a food pusher?