Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. – Willie Nelson
There’s no doubt about it, having a negative attitude can have a huge impact on overall health, upsetting the balance within, and being a source of additional stress in our life.
For some, negativity has been a lifelong habit. So, what can you do to effectively change this ‘inner bad language?’
How To Be More Positive
#1 Commit To Positive Thinking
When you wake up each day give yourself a mini pep talk – what do you want to achieve? How will you react to situations? How will you avoid negative thoughts?
Remember, thinking positive is a habit, this means you can learn to do it!
#2 Notice Negativity
When you become aware of the negativity in your attitude, you become more conscious of your internal thoughts, and therefore you can begin to challenge this behavior.
#3 Record Negative Thoughts
Make a record of any negative comments you make throughout the day.
Can you see a pattern in your thoughts? Is it related to work, other people, your health? How can you begin to challenge this behavior?
#4 Appreciate What You Have
What are you thankful for? Appreciation can turn anger and frustration into something more positive.
Focus on your strengths, or what’s good about your life. We all have weaknesses, but focusing on our strengths prevents them getting the better of us.
#5 Create A Gratitude Journal
At the end of each day try writing down five things that made you happy, or thankful.
Are you grateful for your health? Having food to eat? Or, having children or a partner who you love?
#6 Focus On Your Motives
What motivates you? Maybe it’s your family, your job, your love of music, or your religion.
Whatever it is, focus on that when you get discouraged.
#7 Accept That You Fail Sometimes
Remember, there’s no shame in making mistakes – accept them, learn from them, and move on.
Michael Jordan said,
I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
#8 Avoid Limiting Beliefs
These are statements, such as “I can’t do this!” Instead try saying “How can I do this?” or “How is this possible?”
This way you become more open to new possibilities and solutions. In difficult circumstances try to see opportunities to learn, grow, and experience.
#9 Focus On What You Can Change
Often circumstances arise that are completely out of our control. We can’t change them, so stop worrying.
If you feel your life really sucks, what can you do to change it? Try setting one or two goals now.
#10 Be Educated
Read motivational books, listen to podcasts, and ask others what they did to improve their skills.
#11 Befriend Positive People
There’s no doubt about it, being with naturally happy people elevates our mood.
Allow their positivity to rub off on you, and learn how they react to stressful circumstances in their own life.
#12 Laugh Often
Laughing has a wonderful way of reducing stressful feelings, connecting us with others, and generally making us feel better.
Try to bring laughter into your life whenever possible.
#13 Help Those In Need
Giving your time to help others will refocus your mind on what really matters.
Do you have an elderly neighbor who could use some help? Maybe you could prepare a meal for them once each week, or offer to take them shopping. What about community volunteer work?
#14 Learn From Negative Experiences
Make it a your new goal to learn something from each negative life experience. This way you turn a negative occurrence into something positive.
#15 Remember, Most Things Pass With Time
There will be a tomorrow, and circumstances may change much sooner than you expect.
What I’m suggesting isn’t intended to be mindless positive thinking, where you pretend everything’s okay, when clearly it isn’t.
It’s more about making the choice to be positive, and learning something good from every situation.
I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today. ~ William Allen White
What are your tips on how to be positive?