15 Behavioural Tips To Develop The Habit Of Positivity

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Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. – Willie Nelson

There’s no doubt about it, having a negative attitude can have a huge impact on overall health, upsetting the balance within, and being a source of additional stress in our life.

For some, negativity has been a lifelong habit. So, what can you do to effectively change this ‘inner bad language?’

How To Be More Positive

#1 Commit To Positive Thinking

When you wake up each day give yourself a mini pep talk – what do you want to achieve? How will you react to situations? How will you avoid negative thoughts?

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Remember, thinking positive is a habit, this means you can learn to do it!

#2 Notice Negativity

When you become aware of the negativity in your attitude, you become more conscious of your internal thoughts, and therefore you can begin to challenge this behavior.

#3 Record Negative Thoughts

Make a record of any negative comments you make throughout the day.

Can you see a pattern in your thoughts? Is it related to work, other people, your health? How can you begin to challenge this behavior?

#4 Appreciate What You Have

What are you thankful for? Appreciation can turn anger and frustration into something more positive.

Focus on your strengths, or what’s good about your life. We all have weaknesses, but focusing on our strengths prevents them getting the better of us.

#5 Create A Gratitude Journal

At the end of each day try writing down five things that made you happy, or thankful.

Are you grateful for your health? Having food to eat? Or, having children or a partner who you love?

#6 Focus On Your Motives

What motivates you? Maybe it’s your family, your job, your love of music, or your religion.

Whatever it is, focus on that when you get discouraged.

#7 Accept That You Fail Sometimes

Remember, there’s no shame in making mistakes – accept them, learn from them, and move on.

Michael Jordan said,

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

#8 Avoid Limiting Beliefs

These are statements, such as “I can’t do this!” Instead try saying “How can I do this?” or “How is this possible?”

This way you become more open to new possibilities and solutions. In difficult circumstances try to see opportunities to learn, grow, and experience.

#9 Focus On What You Can Change

Often circumstances arise that are completely out of our control. We can’t change them, so stop worrying.

If you feel your life really sucks, what can you do to change it? Try setting one or two goals now.

#10 Be Educated

Read motivational books, listen to podcasts, and ask others what they did to improve their skills.

#11 Befriend Positive People

There’s no doubt about it, being with naturally happy people elevates our mood.

Allow their positivity to rub off on you, and learn how they react to stressful circumstances in their own life.

#12 Laugh Often

Laughing has a wonderful way of reducing stressful feelings, connecting us with others, and generally making us feel better.

Try to bring laughter into your life whenever possible.

#13 Help Those In Need

Giving your time to help others will refocus your mind on what really matters.

Do you have an elderly neighbor who could use some help? Maybe you could prepare a meal for them once each week, or offer to take them shopping. What about community volunteer work?

#14 Learn From Negative Experiences

Make it a your new goal to learn something from each negative life experience. This way you turn a negative occurrence into something positive.

#15 Remember, Most Things Pass With Time

There will be a tomorrow, and circumstances may change much sooner than you expect.

What I’m suggesting isn’t intended to be mindless positive thinking, where you pretend everything’s okay, when clearly it isn’t.

It’s more about making the choice to be positive, and learning something good from every situation.

I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today. ~ William Allen White

What are your tips on how to be positive?

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Comments 19

  1. Melanie

    Hi Sumesh,

    Thanks for joining us here! Yes, that’s very true, I think if you allow for failure, the fact that it’s not a surprise helps you deal with it.

  2. Sumesh from Blog Creativity

    My favourite points would be ‘accept failure’ and avoid limiting beliefs – very true.

    Sometimes people are overly optimistic and forget the fact that failure is part of life. I’m glad I’m not one of them….

    PS: New to this blog, subscribed….hoping for more posts like these.

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  3. Tom

    I think the most important one is befriending positive people, or also being with people who can help you be positive. Even the best of us have moments where we get down or become negative. Sometimes its difficult to regain our positivity on our own. I think it helps alot if there is someone close who can help you regain it. This person doesn’t have to always be positive themselves, but someone who recognizes when you need a boost. I think its also important to be a mutual relationship where both people help each other remain or regain positivity during adversity.

  4. Melanie

    Hey Tom,

    Yes, sometimes it is difficult to regain on our own, funny how a few good words spoken by a friend can really refocus our thoughts on what’s important.

  5. Elaine

    I’ve read quite a few articles on this theme but yours is one of the best. Every tip seems realistic and achievable, although the behaviors don’t always come naturally to me, I confess. I appreciate your comment about not pretending things are ok when they really aren’t. Sometimes really bad stuff happens to good people.

    So… it’s late as a write this. I think I will practice #4 and #5 this evening to end my day. Then tomorrow, I’ll come by again and read #1, #2, #3. In days to come, I’ll add the others.

    Elaine’s last blog post..Diet for a hungry planet

  6. Melanie

    Hi Elaine,

    Thank you!! I’m encouraged by your comments, and really hope that this article helps.

    I know, it’s not possible to always be on top of the world, but I think if we can learn something from negative situations and circumstances, even if it’s just a small nugget of truth, this is the best way to turn it into a positive!

  7. Online Vastu Consultancy

    Very nice tips. Its very easy to be calm and live stress free life. I have heard, our thoughts can change the things around us. And if we really want to think positive and want to live a peaceful and stress free life than we have to change our thoughts. Its on our mind that we think positive or we think negative.
    There are many persons whom i have seen, they never react on bad situation. They stay as cool as they were before. They never sit and cry on what happened, instead try to work on it with positive attitude and smiling face.
    Such people inspire us so much..

  8. Melanie

    Hi OVC,
    Thanks for your comment.

    I agree, we can totally change how we view situations by having a more positive attitude – and if you aren’t normally that way inclined you can work on it, that’s the great thing, it can become habit for you too!

  9. Don


    Thanks for your site!

    I have been a very negative person throughout my life but I finally realized i was the problem not the outside circumstances! In 1995 I changed from a lousy SAD diet to 85% to 95% raw diet I haven’t made it 100% yet but I will because I totally believe in it!!! The change has not been easy I did not know at the time but I had Hep C didn’t find that out until several years later. I have no problems with it at all enzyme levels are normal, was 151.

    I just wanted to give God the glory and to tell you thanks for leading people in the right direction. If people want to live a positive life and CURE disease, any disease, all they have to do is change the way they think and what you’re putting into your body because it MATTERS! It clearly says in the bible “As A Man Thinks So Shall He Be!!!”

    Thank you for your site may God Bless You always and abundantly!

    Don Ferguson

  10. Paul

    Thanks for outlining the above, this is a very relevant post to me at the moment. I believe that I’ve generally been quite a negative person, and so have been trying to take action to swing things in the opposite direction.

    For me, #2 ‘noticing negativity’ and #10 ‘be educated’ have been the most effective. I’ve found that recognising negative thoughts instead of ignoring them and spending more time reading/learning is slowly changing my thought processes. Some way to go as yet however.


    1. Melanie

      Hi Paul,
      I think the fact that you even noticed you need to make improvements is a wonderful step in the right direction. Many people don’t even reaslise how negative they are or sound. Good work 🙂

  11. Ron

    Hey Melanie,
    Wow !!! Read to chapter six. Chapter five
    is the total wake up. Okay, the title is
    too the point but, I challenge only 1 of
    the six, at a time. Lazy? Ha Ha .
    I require my brain to re-orginize it’s
    library. My Wife’s never ending positivity
    along with your tutorism embeds myself
    with this thought , Today is a present
    tomorrow is an adventure !!!!

    Melanie, you are positivly increasing
    one’s abilities & success!

    Regards, Piechotta family

  12. Prashant

    Hi,melanie i am 26 year old guy and my weight is 90 and my height is 5.10″ and i want to be lean with good muscle so please guide me with your diet…………

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